My user does not show up for auto login under the Login Window configuration. My user is a normal user how can I add myself so that I will be logged in automatically ?
Which login window do you mean? XDM, WDM, GDM, KDM, Slim?
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You don't really need a login manager, you could just put the following in /etc/rc.local
su - username -c 'source /etc/profile;startx'
if you use the above trick, it creates a new .serverauth file each time, so I recomend putting the following in /etc/rc.local.shutdown