Gah, I must have been on IRC for a half hour asking this question while only getting answers on how to install an icon theme. I know how to install an icon theme... but here's my question..
How do I get a launcher to USE the current icon theme? I know I could individually set all my icons to /usr/share/icons/Wasp/whateverIneed.. but if I wanted to change icon themes, it would take forever. I just want to set it to like currentIconTheme->apps/webbrowser or something like that. How do I do that?
If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 1 Corinthians 13:2
As an answer to my own quetsion... you edit the file.desktop with an editor.. and make it like this
I believe freedesktop.org has icon theme standard names... just use one of those..
like web-broswer.png or gaim.png etc
in .icons/default/index.theme write
[Icon Theme] Inherits=Iconthemename